#TalkAboutItTuesday BDSM Role Player or Life-Styler?

“I’ll gladly answer any questions burning on your brain on ANY topic. Nothing is off limits. Just be prepared for my honest answer.”–I posted that on my FB page a few weeks ago and got some interesting questions…one that still sort of makes me laugh.

Clare D.: I love the book and the way you write your shapeshifters it really paints a picture. I feel like I’m a apart of the transformation. Do you see yourself writing spin offs say characters who frequented the club but say moved away and did there own thing sort of a Cheers and Frasier sort of thing? Have you ever considered writing outside the paranormal genre? And here’s the doozy I thought too personal to ask— I saw some pics posted of you and your family beautiful…. but am….I’m wondering… is your husband wearing a collar? ::hides face and winces:: I mean you don’t have to answer obviously but is he your ::wincing again:: sub? If he is I think it is frickin’ awesome and if he’s not and you guys are the awesome types straight laced lawyers by day comic con, leather wearing, fandom afficionados by night– please put in a good word to the Lord for me cause I’m lovin’ either way. I’m a wanna be. K….

Dicey: Clare, I’m glad you’re enjoying my writing style! As far as spin-offs go, depending on reader reception of my next book from Punch’s POV, I may do a werewolf spin-off to the vampire series. I have also considered a spin-off for another paranormal creature that frequents Hades (that I won’t name to prevent giving a spoiler away) and hasn’t been introduced yet. It all depends on how my muses continue to act.

Though my paranormal series is more popular than my other books, I have already written in other genres and will continue to do so. SHAMEFUL is a naughty taboo tale about a married mother of 3 who has an affair with a 16 y/o. Her 14 y/o daughter being interested in the same stud presents all sorts of unpredictable drama. I’ve also published HOW TO HAVE A PERFECT MARRIAGE, which is about a couple who follows 20 rules to ensure the perfect marriage…and fail miserably. It’s a dark comedy novelette (10k words).

Regarding your last question–How dare you ask me that!–JUST KIDDING!!! Girrrrrl! That question made me laugh out loud. Surprisingly, you’re the only one who has mentioned the spiked collar around his neck. Maybe others are scared to ask…because of the answer they might get. LOL I must say…your question shows that you, my dear, must be familiar with the BDSM lifestyle in order to have recognized that collar. We’ve probably been reading some of the same books. That’s also what was so funny about your question. Others may not have even recognized the symbolism. Haha. I’m stalling… Where was I?

Oh, yes. Is Danny my sub? The short answer is no. The longer answer is no, not in the literal sense; we’re players when the mood strikes. I know you know what that means. I’d hate to seem less cool by admitting the collar was part of a costume only, but we just have fun dressing up and “playing”. It’s not our lifestyle…but I’d definitely be the FEMDOMME if it were. You can call me Mistress Dicey if you like. Kidding again. I love the way you worded this: “…you guys are the awesome types straight laced lawyers by day comic con, leather wearing, fandom afficionados by night…” That pretty much sums it up. GRRRRREAT QUESTIONS!!!

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Dressing up and playing characters is pretty much how I enjoy Comic Cons, Halloween, Vampire Balls, 70’s & 80’s parties… anything outside my daily routine.

I read a book (Tender Mercies by Kitty Thomas) earlier this summer about a woman (Grace) who was fed up with role playing as a submissive and wanted something real. She willfully moved to an island and became a slave. Initially, she got more than she bargained for from a cruel Dom, but at least it worked out for her in the end. She ended up getting the master of her dreams (Asher), who had learned how to dole out tender mercies after an unfortunate punishment of his former slave turned fatal. I couldn’t help but think–Damn. Hardcore Grace would look at me as an imposter. πŸ˜€ But really, I just like to have fun…and keep things interesting for my hubby.

What about YOU? How important is role playing for fun or actually living the lifestyle?

On another note, since I do a lot of research for certain characters that are “in the life”, I’ve come across some good nonfiction material. Check out Tymber Dalton’s The Real Rules For BDSM, if you think you may be more of a life-styler,Β and her book,Β Whip Me, Beat Me, Make Me Write Hot Sex, if you’re inclined to write in the genre.

No matter whether you’re serious about BDSM or playing around–enjoy!

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